RULE 2 TREAT YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR HELPING
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WHY WON'T YOU JUST TAKE YOUR DAMN PILLS?
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We are trained to assume that the failure of patients to follow professional advice is the fault of the practitioner,
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Recipients of transplants still suffer the effects of organ rejection, despite the existence and utility of these drugs. It’s not because the drugs fail (although they sometimes do). It’s more often because those prescribed the drugs do not take them.
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People are better at filling and properly administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves. That’s not good.
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The Oldest Story and the Nature of the World
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God created the cosmos, using His divine Word, speaking light, water and land into existence,
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and ended with man, male and female,
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In the second, older, “Jawhist” version, we find another origin account, involving Adam and Eve (where the details of creation differ somewhat), as well as the stories of Cain and Abel, Noah and the Tower of Babel.
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Because we are so scientific now—and so determinedly materialistic—it is very difficult for us even to understand that other ways of seeing can and do exist.
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Being was understood as a place of action, not a place of things.31 It was understood as something more akin to story or drama.
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that which we subjectively experience can be likened much more to a novel or a movie than to a scientific description of physical reality.
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unique, tragic, personal death of your father, compared to the objective death listed in the hospital records;
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The Domain, Not of Matter, but of What Matters
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One of these is chaos. Another is order. The third (as there are three) is the process that mediates between the two,
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It’s the foreigner, the stranger, the member of another gang, the rustle in the bushes in the night-time, the monster under the bed,
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Order, by contrast, is explored territory. That’s the hundreds-of-millions-of-years-old hierarchy of place, position and authority.
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structure of society.
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structure provided by biology,
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Order is tribe, religion, hearth, home and country.
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You’re in order, when you have a loyal friend, a trustworthy ally. When the same person betrays you, sells you out, you move from the daytime world of clarity and light to the dark underworld of chaos,
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Order is the Shire of Tolkien’s hobbits: peaceful, productive and safely inhabitable, even by the naive.
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Order is the stability of your marriage.
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New ideas can destroy old and comfortable certainties.
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when our ancestors dwelled in trees, and snakes struck in a flash.32
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Chaos and Order: Personality, Female and Male
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Chaos and order are two of the most fundamental elements of lived experience—two of the most basic subdivisions of Being itself. But they’re not things, or objects,
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Perception of things as tools, for example, occurs before or in concert with perception of things as objects.
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Perception of things as entities with personality also occurs before perception of things as things.
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“the hyperactive agency detector” within us.
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the most significant elements of our environment of origin were personalities, not things,
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They have been male or female, for example, for a billion years.
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the category of “parent” and/or “child” has been around for 200 million years.
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Our brains are deeply social.
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understanding is dealing with and coping with and not merely representing objectively.
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Order, the known, appears symbolically associated with masculinity (as illustrated in the aforementioned yang of the Taoist yin-yang symbol). This is perhaps because the primary hierarchical structure of human society is masculine,
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men are and throughout history have been the builders of towns and cities, the engineers, stonemasons, bricklayers, and lumberjacks, the operators of heavy machinery.
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Order is God the Father,
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This is partly because all the things we have come to know were born, originally, of the unknown,
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Women are choosy maters (unlike female chimps, their closest animal counterparts39).
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It is for this reason that women on dating sites rate 85 percent of men as below average in attractiveness.
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Women’s proclivity to say no,
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Star of David is, for example, the downward pointing triangle of femininity and the upward pointing triangle of the male.
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the same for the yoni and lingam of Hinduism
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Egyptians represented Osiris, god of the state, and Isis, goddess of the underworld, as twin cobras with their tails knotted together.
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same symbol was used in China to portray Fuxi and Nuwa,
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familiar Western images of the Virgin Mary with the Christ Child and the Pietà both express the female/male dual unity,
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Elkhonon Goldberg, student of the great Russian neuropsychologist Alexander Luria, has proposed quite lucidly and directly that the very hemispheric structure of the cortex reflects the fundamental division between novelty (the unknown, or chaos) and routinization (the known, order).
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We eternally inhabit order, surrounded by chaos. We eternally occupy known territory, surrounded by the unknown.
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To straddle that fundamental duality is to be balanced: to have one foot firmly planted in order and security, and the other in chaos, possibility, growth and adventure.
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Order is not enough. You can’t just be stable, and secure, and unchanging, because there are still vital and important new things to be learned.
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The Garden of Eden
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the emergence of order from chaos,
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Paradise serving as habitable order and the serpent playing the role of chaos.
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It just does not appear possible, even for God himself, to make a bounded space completely protected from the outside—not
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The snake inhabits each of our souls. This is the reason, as far as I can tell, for the strange Christian insistence, made most explicit by John Milton, that the snake in the Garden of Eden was also Satan, the Spirit of Evil itself.
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The worst of all possible snakes is the eternal human proclivity for evil.
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As the great Russian writer Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn insisted, the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.
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And even if it were possible to permanently banish everything threatening—everything dangerous (and, therefore, everything challenging and interesting), that would mean only that another danger would emerge: that of permanent human infantilism and absolute uselessness.
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do you want to make your children safe, or strong?
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As the Russian playwright Anton Chekhov advised, “If there is a rifle hanging on the wall in act one, it must be fired in the next act.
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Eve immediately shares the fruit with Adam. That makes him self-conscious. Little has changed. Women have been making men self-conscious since the beginning of time. They do this primarily by rejecting them—but they also do it by shaming them,
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Dr. Lynn Isbell, professor of anthropology and animal behaviour at the University of California, has suggested that the stunningly acute vision almost uniquely possessed by human beings was an adaptation forced on us tens of millions of years ago by the necessity of detecting and avoiding the terrible danger of snakes, with whom our ancestors co-evolved.
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is so commonly shown in medieval and Renaissance iconography holding the Christ Child in the air, as far away as possible from a predatory reptile, which she has firmly pinned under her foot.
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The Naked Ape
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My son figured out that he was naked well before he was three. He wanted to dress himself. He kept the washroom door firmly shut. He didn’t appear in public without his clothes.
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Naked means vulnerable and easily damaged. Naked means subject to judgment for beauty and health.
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Beauty shames the ugly. Strength shames the weak. Death shames the living—and
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Abandon all ideals of beauty, health, brilliance and strength? That’s not a good solution.
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Thank God for John von Neumann! Thank God for Grace Kelly and Anita Ekberg and Monica Bellucci! I’m proud to feel unworthy in the presence of people like that. It’s the price we all pay for aim, achievement and ambition.
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The first woman made the first man self-conscious and resentful. Then the first man blamed the woman. And then the first man blamed God.
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And then God banishes the first man and the first woman from Paradise, out of infancy, out of the unconscious animal world, into the horrors of history itself.
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Why should anyone take care of anything as naked, ugly, ashamed, frightened, worthless, cowardly, resentful, defensive and accusatory as a descendant of Adam? Even if that thing, that being, is himself?
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only you know the full range of your secret transgressions, insufficiencies and inadequacies.
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Good and Evil
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Dogs are predators. So are cats. They kill things and eat them. It’s not pretty. But we’ll take them as pets and care for them, and give them their medication when they’re sick, regardless. Why? They’re predators, but it’s just their nature. They do not bear responsibility for it. They’re hungry, not evil.
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Unlike us, predators have no comprehension of their fundamental weakness, their fundamental vulnerability,
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Only man will inflict suffering for the sake of suffering. That is the best definition of evil I have been able to formulate.
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And who would dare to say that there was no element of voluntary choice in our evolutionary, individual and theological transformation?
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no one understands the darkness of the individual better than the individual himself. Who, then, when ill, is going to be fully committed to his own care?
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A Spark of the Divine
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The moral of Genesis 1 is that Being brought into existence through true speech is Good. This is true even of man himself, prior to his separation from God. This goodness is terribly disrupted by the events of the fall (and of Cain and Abel and the Flood and the Tower of Babel), but we retain an intimation of the prelapsarian state.
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Their goodness was something bestowed, rather than deserved or earned. They exercised no choice.
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But maybe it’s not better than, for example, goodness genuinely earned.
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Back is the way forward—as T. S. Eliot so rightly insisted—but back as awake beings, exercising the proper choice of awake beings, instead of back to sleep:
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If we lived in Truth; if we spoke the Truth—then we could walk with God once again, and respect ourselves, and others, and the world. Then we might treat ourselves like people we cared for.
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In the areas where Christianity emerged two thousand years ago, people were much more barbaric than they are today. Conflict was everywhere. Human sacrifice, including that of children, was a common occurrence even in technologically sophisticated societies, such as that of ancient Carthage.59 In Rome, arena sports were competitions to the death, and the spilling of blood was a commonplace.
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the primary moral issue confronting society was control of violent, impulsive selfishness and the mindless greed and brutality that accompanies it.
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It is easy to believe that people are arrogant, and egotistical, and always looking out for themselves. The cynicism that makes that opinion a universal truism is widespread and fashionable.
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they shoulder intolerable burdens of self-disgust, self-contempt, shame and self-consciousness.
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They are excruciatingly aware of their own faults and inadequacies, real and exaggerated, and ashamed and doubtful of their own value.
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the idea of virtuous self-sacrifice is deeply embedded in Western culture
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“doing unto others as you would have them do unto you”
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these statements has anything to do with being nice.
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both are equations, rather than injunctions.
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It is much better for any relationship when both partners are strong.
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As Jung points out, this means embracing and loving the sinner who is yourself, as much as forgiving and aiding someone else
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This is most clearly evident, perhaps, in the aftermath of suicide, when those left behind are often both bereft and traumatized.
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you have a spark of the divine in you, which belongs not to you, but to God.
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In my clinical practice I encourage people to credit themselves and those around them for acting productively and with care,
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Humanity, in toto, and those who compose it as identifiable people deserve some sympathy for the appalling burden
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We deserve some respect. You deserve some respect. You are important to other people, as much as to yourself.
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You need to consider the future and think, “What might my life look like if I were caring for myself properly?
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You must determine where you are going, so that you can bargain for yourself, so that you don’t end up resentful, vengeful and cruel.
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You must discipline yourself carefully.
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Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself.
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Friedrich Nietzsche so brilliantly noted, “He whose life has a why can bear almost any how.”
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That would give you a Meaning, with a capital M.
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