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giovedì 22 novembre 2018

MEDICI AMBIZIOSI

MEDICI AMBIZIOSI

Cosa sia un sistema complesso lo sappiamo tutti ma non sempre riusciamo sempre dirlo.
Proposta: trattasi di un sistema i cui difetti sono difficili da rettificare poiché molto spesso una correzione non significa altro che rinviare la riproposizione dei medesimi difetti amplificati.

Le foresta, per esempio, è un sistema complesso: il fuoco la mette a rischio ma quanto più le tuteliamo dal pericolo, tanto più aumenta la probabilità del mega-incendio che la ridurrà in cenere.

L’economia è un altro sistema complesso.

Il medico troppo ambizioso in questi casi è letale.

WISH LIST

WISH LIST
Un genitore si prodiga avendo una serie di desideri per il futuro del figlio. Ecco una lista:
1. Salute.
2. Intelligenza.
3. Felicità.
4. Successo.
5. Carattere.
6. Valori.
7. Comportamenti (sesso, crimini…)
8. Stima.

In genere, tranne che per l’ottavo punto, i suoi sforzi sono vani per il raggiungimento degli obbiettivi.

FARE LA DIFFERENZA

FARE LA DIFFERENZA

Vuoi veramente incidere sulla vita di tuo figlio?

Adotta un bambino del Terzo Mondo.

DISCIPLINA E REGOLE

DISCIPLINA E REGOLE
Io sono un fan delle regole.
Purché finalizzate alla buona convivenza, non alla buona educazione.

Quindi: poche, chiare, con sanzioni lievi da applicare immediatamente.

COME TRATTO I MIEI BAMBINI

COME TRATTO I MIEI BAMBINI
Quando dico che i figli sono quelli che sono e cambiarli è difficile, c’è sempre chi mi dice “quindi conta poco come li tratto?”. La mia risposta standard: “conta forse poco come tratti tua moglie?”.

Quando la gente parla dei bambini è ossessionata dal futuro. Quasi non esistessero qui ed ora.

VUOI DAVVERO UN FIGLIO PERFETTO?

VUOI DAVVERO UN FIGLIO PERFETTO?
Fallo con una persona perfetta e avrai qualche speranza.

IL MESTIERE DI GENITORE

IL MESTIERE DI GENITORE
Il mestiere di genitore è un mestiere duro. La parte più dura è il confronto con gli altri genitori. Non vogliamo essere criticati, non vogliamo sfigurare ma soprattutto non vogliamo ammettere a noi stessi che non vogliamo né critiche né brutte figure.

Ecco allora un ambito dove il genitore non deve astenersi ma darsi da fare: liberarsi dal confronto. Vi libererete al contempo da un vizio e da mille oneri.

VUOI DAVVERO UN FIGLIO DA “SCOLPIRE”?

VUOI DAVVERO UN FIGLIO DA “SCOLPIRE”?
Adotta dal terzo mondo

LA CRETA NELLE NOSTRE MANI

LA CRETA NELLE NOSTRE MANI
I bambini sono creta nelle nostre mani?

No, sono elastici nelle nostre mani.

LA PREGHIERA DEL BUON GENITORE

LA PREGHIERA DEL BUON GENITORE

“Dio, concedimi la serenità di accettare le cose che non posso cambiare,

il coraggio di cambiare le cose che posso,

e la saggezza per discernere tra le due”.

Oggi sappiamo che la prima capacità invocata sovrasta la seconda. Quanto alla terza, dopo secoli di buio, la scienza ha acceso il suo lume negli ultimi 25 anni.

mercoledì 21 novembre 2018

HL 2 THE CASE AGAINST GUILT: A PARENT’S GUIDE TO BEHAVIORAL GENETICS

2 THE CASE AGAINST GUILT: A PARENT’S GUIDE TO BEHAVIORAL GENETICS
Note:Nat/Nurt: dove tracciare il limite? Storia dei Friedman e del bias con cui li giudichiamoCome districare nat/nurt: adottati+gemelli+gemelli adottati separatamenteLa wish list canonica di un genitore: i 7 pilastriSu cosa incide l' educazione? Sulla stima genitore/figlioLa qualità dell' evidenzaEducazione e ambiente non sono la stessa cosaCosa differenzia 2 gemelli cresciuti sotto lo stesso tetto? L' analisi va fatta su 3 fattori, non su due.Dell' ambiente unico fa parte anche free willEducazione: effetti diretti e indiretti. La tesi è rafforzata dal bundle effect

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KIDS BORN TODAY REQUIRE FOOD AND SHELTER, JUST AS THEY DID a hundred thousand years ago. Meeting these basic needs is far easier than it once was—we

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Moms’ and dads’ central objection is that if they cut corners, they risk their children’s future.

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Their heads fill with images of lazy parents

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Nature wins, especially in the long run.

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This may sound discouraging. No parent wants to hear that his sacrifices have been in vain.

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HOW TO TELL NATURE FROM NURTURE

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We tend to see their physical similarity as hereditary.

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In contrast, we tend to see their psychological and behavioral similarity as proof of the power of parenting.

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the typical family seamlessly blends biology and upbringing.

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two kinds of families are special: Families that adopt, and families with twins.

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there are two kinds of twins: identical and fraternal. Identical twins share all of their genes.

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Fraternal twins share only half of their genes—no

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if identical twins resemble each other more than fraternal twins, the reason is probably nature.

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twins who were separated and raised by different families.

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If identical twins raised apart are more similar than fraternal twins raised apart, the reason almost has to be nature. If twins raised together are more similar than twins raised apart, the reason almost has to be nurture.

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The result is a new discipline—behavioral genetics—and

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Identical twins are much more similar than fraternal twins—even when separated at birth—and their similarity often increases as they age.

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By the time adoptees reach adulthood, however, this resemblance largely fades away.

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EXPLAINING VARIATION

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If you raise a child in a closet and make sure he never hears a word, he won’t learn how to speak.

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Most twin and adoption studies focus on people raised in advanced Western countries in modern times.

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If a mix-up sent a Haitian baby to food-rich America, and an American baby to hungry Haiti, the effect on height could be massive.

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NURTURE AND ENVIRONMENT ARE NOT THE SAME

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No two people have exactly the same environment. Two children who live under one roof have different teachers and friends.

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researchers equate “nurtured in the same way” with “were raised by the same people.”

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Any feature of children’s environment that varies despite the fact that they were raised by the same people. Researchers call such features “unique environment” or “nonshared environment,”

Note:AMBIENTE ORIGINALE O NON CONDIVISO

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Anything from peers, germs, and television to parental favoritism, dumb luck, and free will could qualify as unique environment.

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Instead of picturing a two-way race between nature and nurture, picture a three-way race

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The fact that genes don’t explain everything does not imply that family environment explains the rest.

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NATURE AND NURTURE: DIRECT VERSUS INDIRECT EFFECTS

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If researchers report that genes affect income, for example, the reason might be that genes matter for intelligence, and intelligence matters for income.

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Since researchers bundle together direct and indirect effects, their results are a lot stronger than they look. Suppose an adoption study finds that nurture doesn’t influence smoking. A parent could not reasonably object, “Right, but since peers influence smoking, and parents influence peers, I still matter.” The flaw in this argument is that a normal adoption study includes any and all indirect effects.

Note:ROBUSTEZZA DEI RISULTATI

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MEASURING NATURE AND NURTURE EFFECTS

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The clearest measures come from a thought experiment I call “Switched at Birth”:

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if your counterpart in the thought experiment is in the 51st through 55th percentiles, I’ll call that a “small” effect. If he’s in the 56th through 65th percentiles, I’ll call that a “moderate” effect. Anything more I’ll call “large.”

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THE PARENTAL WISH LIST: CAN PARENTS MAKE THEIR DREAMS COME TRUE?

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you’d still prefer your kids to become healthy, smart, happy, successful, virtuous adults who share your values and appreciate

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The underlying assumption is that parents have the power to grant their own wishes.

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WISH #1: HEALTH

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Parents pressure their kids to eat right, get fresh air and exercise, brush their teeth, and stay away from tobacco and drugs.

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The main rationale for health-related nagging is to instill healthy habits

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Parents don’t affect life expectancy. Major twin studies find no influence of family environment on life span.

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Parents have little or no effect on overall health. There’s more to health than staying alive.

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Parents don’t affect height, weight, or teeth. We all want our kids to grow up to be tall and fit, with sparkling white teeth.

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Parents might have a small effect on smoking, drinking, and drug problems.

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WISH #2: INTELLIGENCE

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One misreported study about “the Mozart effect” led moms to play the classics for babies and fetuses alike.

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MOZART EFFECT

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parents have little or no long-run effect on their children’s intelligence.

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WISH #3: HAPPINESS

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Good parents want to make their children happy. In the short run, they often succeed.

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The most striking evidence on nature, nurture, and happiness comes from the Minnesota Study of Twins Reared Apart. Twins raised apart were more alike in happiness than twins raised together.

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The same goes for self-esteem.

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Unhappy adults like to blame their problems on their parents’ lack of love and support. According to the best evidence, however, both groups are wrong.

Note:GENITORI COME FONTE DI INFELICITÀ

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WISH #4: SUCCESS

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Strangers often advise you to follow your dreams, but parents are more likely to tell you to get your head out of the clouds.

Note:IL CLASSICO CONSIGLIO

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Being a successful lawyer is more fun than being a failed actor.

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success roughly equals high income and a fancy degree.

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Successful parents may give their kids a small edge, but heredity is much more important. Kids literally inherit educational and financial success from their parents.

Note:IL SUCCESSO EREDITATO

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Parents have little effect on how much school their kids get.

Note:SCUOLA SCELTA

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twin researchers conclude that children’s families have no long-run effect on educational success.

Note:POCA INFLUENZA

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Parents have no effect on grades.

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Parents have little or no effect on how much money their kids make when they grow up.

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WISH #5: CHARACTER

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We want our children to grow up to be men and women of substance—of character.

Note:IL DESIDERIO DI UN GENITORE

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“Maybe I can’t affect his IQ or his income, but I can control whether he grows up to be a decent person.”

Note:L'ULTIMO BALUARDO DEI GENITORI

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Parents have little or no effect on conscientiousness or agreeableness.

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Parents have little or no effect on criminal behavior.

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WISH #6: VALUES

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When your side does it, it’s “education”; when other sides do it, it’s “brainwashing.”

Note:EDUCAZIONE E LAVAGGIO DEL CERVELLO

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Parents have a big effect on religious labels, but little on religious attitudes and behavior.

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Parents have a big effect on political labels, but little on political attitudes and behavior.

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Parents have little effect on traditionalism and modernism.

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IDEOLOGIA

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Like other personality traits, openness is largely unresponsive to upbringing.

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Parents have moderate influence over when their daughters start having sex, but little over their sons.

Note:SESSO E AMORE

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Parents have little or no effect on teen pregnancy.

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Parents have little or no effect on adult sexual behavior.

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Parents may have a small effect on sexual orientation.

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genes are far from the whole story—if you’re gay, your identical twin is usually still straight.

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Parents have little or no effect on marriage, marital satisfaction, or divorce.

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Parents have little or no effect on childbearing.

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WISH #7: APPRECIATION

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To me, it’s more important to deserve my children’s appreciation than to get it.

Note:L'AMORE DEI FIGLI PER I GENITORI

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Out of all the wishes on the Parental Wish List, “good memories” are one of the few that clearly depend upon how you raise your child.

Note:L'AMBIENTE QUI È DECISIVO

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BEYOND THE EXTRAORDINARY

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“Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.” But behavioral genetics comfortably passes Sagan’s test.

SEGAN TEST

HL 3 BEHAVIORAL GENETICS: CAN IT BE TRUE—AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

3 BEHAVIORAL GENETICS: CAN IT BE TRUE—AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Note:.... e quindi?3 conseguenze: 1 guilt free 2 tratta bene i tuoi bimbi senza paura di renderli mollaccioni 3 fai altri figliCome coordinare buon senso e studi: breve e lungo xiodoBambini argilla e plasticaCome tratti tuoi bambini conta poco. Proprio come conta poco come tratti la moglie.

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We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.

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too counterintuitive to believe.

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too depressing to embrace.

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Parents’ short-run effects are much bigger than their long-run effects.

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Upbringing has lasting effects on appreciation, and religious and political identity.

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guilt free.

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Treating your kids with kindness and respect,

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Having more kids—while

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having time for yourself.

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Show more modesty, and get more happiness.

Note:L ATTEGGIAMENTO GIUSTO

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“WHO YOU GONNA BELIEVE—ME OR YOUR OWN EYES?” NATURE, NURTURE, AND FADE-OUT

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There is a simple way to sync science and common sense: The short-run effects of parenting are larger than the long-run effects.

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FADE-OUT AND INTELLIGENCE

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Twin and adoption research on young children’s intelligence always finds nurture effects.

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Nurture effects were largest for the youngest kids under observation, four- to six-year-olds.

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By the time the adoptees were age seven, however, two-thirds of this nurture effect was gone. By twelve, nothing was left.

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FADE-OUT AND INCOME

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Swedes have almost no financial privacy;

Note:IL PARADISO DEI RICERCATORI

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Family has a moderate effect in your early twenties.

Note:GLI EFFETTTI SUL REDDITO CAMBIANO CON L ETÀ

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By the time your adopted brother reaches his late twenties, however, the effect of upbringing on income completely fades out—and

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FADE-OUT, CRIME, AND OTHER BAD BEHAVIOR

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a 2002 study of almost 7,000 Virginian twins found little or no effect of family environment on adult antisocial behavior.

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The moral: Parents are pretty good at putting their children on the right track, but not so good at keeping them there.

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FADE-OUT AND RELIGION

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moderate nurture effects.

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During childhood, the nurture effect is big. If you’re more religious than 80 percent of kids, we should expect your adopted sibling to be more religious than 68 percent.

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but the effect on his behavior and beliefs will largely vanish.

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We often compare children to clay. When they’re soft, you can mold them into any shape you like; after they harden, they stay the way you made them. What common sense and science tell us, however, is that children are more like flexible plastic.

Note:CONC GENERALI...I BAMBINI NN SONO CRETA MA ELASTICI

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At some point during your childhood, you probably announced, “When I grow up, I’m going to do things my way!”

Note:MITO DELL INDIPENDENZA

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THE POWER OF PARENTING: CAN REBELLION SAVE THE DAY?

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parents have big effects, but their efforts backfire about half the time.

Note:ALTRA INTERPRETAZIONE ALLO ZERO EFFECT...RIBELLIONE

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Intelligence: Your dad watches sports all day long, so you seek refuge in books.

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Happiness: Your mom tells you to cheer up, so you sulk just to spite her.

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Character: You’re habitually late to annoy your rigidly punctual dad.

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I doubt I’d be such a nerd if my dad and brother weren’t sports fans,

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GENETIC DETERMINISM VERSUS PARENTAL DETERMINISM

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“Genetic determinism”

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genes fully control our parenting

Note:IL MIO È UN LIBRO SELF REFUTING?

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Twin and adoption studies never claim that genes fully explain

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a truly popular dogma: parental determinism.

Note:IL LIBRO È UNA CRITICA A....

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“His parents raised him well.”

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“Just look at the parents.”

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there’s a lot more to “the environment” than the family.

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One of my sons is a better bicyclist, the other a better swimmer.

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researchers have failed to explain why

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Personally, I doubt that scientists will ever account

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free will.

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embracing behavioral genetics and free will at the same time is at least consistent

Note:MOLTI LO RITENGONO ASSURDO

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“nonshared environment”

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LINGERING DOUBTS

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I’m convinced, but not certain.

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Behavioral geneticists usually assume, for example, that genetic effects are linear—two copies of a gene have twice the effect of a single copy.

Note:PRIMO ASSUNTO DUBBIO

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Cutting-edge studies of the children of twins find bigger effects of parenting

Note:ALTRA FONTE DI DUBBI

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research focuses on middle-class families in First World countries.

Note:LA FONTE PIÙ IMPORTANTE DI DUBBI

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Twin and adoption studies also tend to ignore the poor in First World countries.

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Adoptees almost never grow up in lower-class homes,

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Families like yours have been studied to death.

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WHAT THE SCIENCE OF NATURE AND NURTURE MEANS FOR PARENTS

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False hope in the power of nurture leads to wasted effort

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LIGHTEN UP

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relaxed parenting is a free lunch:

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How much pain can parents safely avoid?

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If your parenting style passes the laugh test, your kids will be fine.

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I see why parents of grown children resist my message. They’re proud of their kids and don’t want some genetic accountant telling them to write off their investments.

Note:UNA BUONA NOTIZIA CHE SUONA DISTURBANTE

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What’s puzzling is the resistance of people who are still midstream.

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illusion of control. Flying is about 100 times safer than driving, but many of us feel safer behind the wheel.

Note:COME SPIEGARE LE REAZIONI SCHIFATE...AEROPLANO

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the truth should come as a great relief.

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if nature matters as much as I claim, you won’t be able to turn your kid into the next Einstein

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give him the gift of life, feed and water him, don’t lock him in a closet, and life will take care of the rest.

Note:IL BUON GENITORE...AFFIDATEVI A DIO

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“Step back and trust that you raised your kids right.”

Note:IL CONSIGLIO CHE SI DÀ DI SOLITO AI GENITORI DEGLI ADOLESCENTI

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step back and trust not in your parenting but in your genes.

Note:IL CONSIGLIO X TUTTI I GENITORI

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peer pressure.

Note:PROBLEMA ALTRI GENITORI....IL GENITORE RILASSATO INDICATO AL PUBBLICO LUDIBRIO

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Most parents are too exhausted by their own overparenting to pay much attention to yours.

Note:LA SPERANZA

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they’ll probably keep their opinions to themselves to avoid conflict.

Note:L INTERESSE DEGLI ALTRI

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In modern society, we meet most of our needs in the marketplace, not our neighborhoods.

Note:ANCHE LA DISAPPROVAZIONE ESPLICITA NN HA CONSEG GRAVI

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CHOOSE A SPOUSE WHO RESEMBLES THE KIDS YOU WANT TO HAVE

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The most effective way to get the kind of kids you want is to pick a spouse who has the traits you want your kids to have.

Note:LA MIGLIORE STRATEGIA

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Married couples are fairly similar in health, intelligence, education, income, criminality, and values—all

Note:GIÀ OGGI...IL CONSIGLIO É INUTILE

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Behavioral genetics urges us to get pickier.

Note:AGGIORNIAMOCI

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Another implication: The macho, irresponsible “bad boy” is an even worse deal for women than he’s reputed to be.

Note:ALTRO AGGIORNAMENTO

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IF YOU WANT TO DRASTICALLY IMPROVE A CHILD’S LIFE, ADOPT FROM THE THIRD WORLD

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Suppose, however, that you yearn to transform a child’s life. Is there any effective way to do it?

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LO SCONTENTO CHE VUOLE PLASMARE...

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Adopt from the Third World—from lands where poverty, disease, illiteracy, and oppression stifle human flourishing.

Note:L ARGILLA PIÚ MALLEABILE

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RAISE YOUR CHILDREN WITH KINDNESS AND RESPECT

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The Nurture Assumption by Judith Harris.

Note:UN LIBRO CHE MI HA INFLUENZATO

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People sometimes ask me, “So you mean it doesn’t matter how I treat my child?” They never ask, “So you mean it doesn’t matter how I treat my husband or wife?” and yet the situation is similar. I don’t expect that the way I act toward my husband is going to determine what kind of person he will be ten or twenty years from now.

Note:PERCHÈ TRAYTARE CON CURA UNA XSONA? IL FUTURO NN È TUTTO

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Twin and adoption studies confirm that parents have a noticeable effect on how kids experience and remember their childhood.

Note:UN RICORDO INDELEBILE

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This knowledge should inspire every parent.

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When my sons and I read A Series of Unfortunate Events, I don’t imagine that I’m boosting their adult IQ or reading ability. The point is to enjoy the stories and take away fond memories of our time together.

Note:ENJOY INSIEME

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Today, similarly, many believe that they have to raise their kids to be tough and competitive in a tough, competitive world. From this perspective, too much kindness is dangerous;

Note:L EQUIVOCO

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Treating kids harshly “for their own good,” in contrast, doesn’t pay off.

Note:DISCIPLINA SÌ....MA FINALIZZATA ALLA BUONA CONVIVENZA NN ALLA BUONA EDUCAZIONE

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SHARE YOUR CREED, BUT DON’T EXPECT MIRACLES

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Parents’ other major legacies are their effects on religious denomination and political party.

Note:ALTRO AMBITO DI INFLUENZA

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realize that your religious and political influence is superficial.

Note:MA ATTENZIONE

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DON’T WRITE OFF YOUR TEENS

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Parents affect juvenile antisocial behavior (for both sexes) and sexual behavior (girls only).

Note:INTERVENTI DI FATTO....NN RELATIVI AL CARAYTERE

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You might also try to discourage smoking, drinking, and drug use.

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HAVE MORE KIDS

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If every child’s future hinged on massive parental investment, fear of large families would be understandable.

Note:NELLA VISIONE TRADIZIONALE

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Since parental investment is overrated, however, good kids—kids you can be proud of—are much cheaper than they seem.

Note:VISIONE OPPOSTA

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Yes, the Korean adoption study provides solid evidence that kids who grow up in bigger families are slightly less successful.

Note:ANCHE QS È VERO

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the downside is tiny.

Note:RISPETTO AL FATTO DI AVERE UN BIMBO IN PIÙ

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A CLOSING PRAYER

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“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Note:SERENITY...LA PREGHIERA DEL BUON GENITORE

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Reinhold Niebuhr’s

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Twin and adoption research has given parents the answers they need.

Note:LA FONTE DELLA SAGGEZZA

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Not only do I feel better about my life, but I can also take the physical and emotional energy I’ve conserved and make it count. That might mean taking my kids to the pool. It might mean showing extra patience for a marathon of curious questions about The Lord of the Rings. Or it might mean that my wife and I will decide that there is room in our lives to welcome another child.

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REINVESTIRE LE ENERGIE RISPARMIATE...ANCORA SUI FIGLI

COME NON INTERROGARE UN BAMBINO (MA NON DITELO A DAVIGO).

COME NON INTERROGARE UN BAMBINO.

Premessa: per il bambino l' "adulto autorevole" è un "Dio", farebbe di tutto per accontentarlo e interessarlo.

- non ripetere le domande una volta che il bimbo ha risposto (potrebbe pensare che non siete soddisfatti di lui e modificare la sua versione).

- non proporre domande binarie (precisate sempre che puo' rispondere di non ricordare)

- non usare formule "determinative" del tipo: hai visto passare il gatto? (si dà per scontato che un gatto sia passato di lì).

- non formulate ipotesi che il bambino deve solo confermare (si tratta di domande suggestive).

- non introdurre nella domanda figure autorevoli che il bambino non oserebbe contraddire, tipo: "... come ha detto la dottoressa...".

- non mostrate particolare attenzione per una risposta piuttosto che l'altra (potrebbe scatenare la sua fantasia per continuare un racconto che attira su di lui l'interesse generale).

- non associate fatti a emozioni, tipo: se rispondi starai meglio.

- interrompere non appena il bambino dà segni di stanchezza.

LA TESI DI POLMIN

La tesi del libro: Il DNA è cio' che spiega meglio chi siamo. Dà conto del 50 percento della varianza dei nostri tratti psicologici. Il resto è dovuto a esperienze ambientali casuali che non hanno effetti a lungo termine.

Il buon insegnante LINK

Un modello per gli allievi https://feedly.com/i/entry/Od/Z0OrlTBzSrJtcae1t5qtueOtvOco3UFNx6gD9Pd4=_16731e2efd9:40042e:f62093d7

Una difesa dell'utilitarismo LINK

https://feedly.com/i/entry/B7jw4LCucCLXhd0mcd9EmMn+sbxtNLGOdNAs60PDOTo=_16732e41972:52605d2:d42b93be

IL PROBLEMA INDOTTO

IL PROBLEMA INDOTTO

Immagina se un alieno venga sulla terra a raccontarci un fatto scientifico di cui nessuno ha mai saputo nulla. L'intelligenza artificiale sta iniziando a fare proprio questo. I computer ci hanno da tempo fornito soluzioni a problemi che gli uomini faticavano a risolvere da soli ma l'intelligenza artificiale va oltre inventandosi e risolvendo problemi della cui esistenza non sospettavamo. Tipo: da sempre si sa che le immagini della retina possono predire certi collassi ma AI ha scoperto da sé che ci dicono anche il sesso del soggetto esaminato https://www.nature.com/articles/s41551-018-0195-0

MA CHE CAVOLO SUCCEDE NELLA CHIESA CATTOLICA AMERICANA?

MA CHE CAVOLO SUCCEDE NELLA CHIESA CATTOLICA AMERICANA?
Di seguito offro una possibile congettura.
Prima i fatti. Quando Francesco divenne papa in ambienti vaticani si sapeva molto bene che il cardinale McCarrick era impegnato in una vasta attività omosessuale con giovani seminaristi adulti. Il precedente Papa aveva, per questo motivo, limitato le attività di McCarrick in vari modi (i dettagli sono ancora controversi). Con la salita al soglio da parte di Francesco le restrizioni di fatto saltarono, al punto che McCarrick divenne uno dei suoi consiglieri e un punto di riferimento nel nuovo continente. Dopo la condanna di McCarrick per abuso su minori il papa ha accettato le sue dimissioni raccomandando una vita appartata e di preghiera.
Una possibile spiegazione degli eventi richiede queste tre premesse:
1. Papa Francesco, come molti modernisti, non considera l'attività omosessuale come moralmente diversa dall'attività eterosessuale. La sua opinione è in tal senso incoerente con l'attuale dottrina cattolica e lui l'ha prudentemente nascosta.
2. Papa Francesco crede che il celibato ecclesiastico sia un errore. Questo punto di vista è incoerente con la politica attuale, ma non, da come ho capito, con la dottrina teologica.
3. Papa Francesco disapprova fortemente gli uomini adulti che intrattengono rapporti sessuali con i bambini.

CONGETTURA: Fintantoché le violazioni di McCarrick erano limitate al sesso consensuale con adulti, non sembravano sufficientemente gravi per giustificare l’allontanamento di un prete tanto talentuoso, oltretutto con opinioni sul futuro della chiesa vicine a quelle del papa. Con la condanna per abuso sui minori tutto è cambiato.

"... E NON C'INDURRE IN TENTAZIONE"

La formula del Padre Nostro è stata cambiata, ora diventa "e non abbandonarci alla tentazione".

Si dice: è solo il diavolo che "induce in tentazione".

Ma il diavolo non puo' nulla senza Dio, che è quindi il "responsabile" ultimo.

Certo, è solo una questione di accenti ma la nuova formula mi sembra sviante, non pone il problema del "male" con la perentorietà di prima, lo occulta risparmiando al fedele una riflessione fondamentale per la sua crescita.

FAMIGLIA DEGENERE

FAMIGLIA DEGENERE

Si preoccupa del futuro dei figli trascurando il presente.

Purtroppo i genitori incidono poco sul futuro dei figli e molto sul loro presente.